What to Do When Your Loved One Has Anxiety Disorder

Lisa Franchi March 26, 2015

Anxiety disorder is tough not just for those who have it but also for the people around them. It can be physically draining at times, and emotionally tormenting most of the time. Whilst the person suffering from anxiety issues may realise that it’s too much, he or she may also have a hard time dealing with it. It is a real mental health issue that can adversely affect a person’s quality of life.

There are many types of anxiety disorder, such as obsessive-compulsive, post-traumatic stress, and panic disorder. And when your loved one has anxiety disorder, it can be difficult to respond to their certain behaviours and emotional needs. One moment you may find dealing with them perfectly okay, and the next moment, not. But don’t worry, you can get by. It is however important to develop a deeper understanding of this condition, for you to be able to support your loved one and help him or her deal with anxiety disorder more effectively.

Below are things you need to do or remember when your loved one has anxiety disorder.

Listen.

Often we think of people with anxiety to have issues communicating their emotions and needs. Whilst anxiety disorder often hinders a person from expressing their feelings appropriately, it isn’t always the case. People with anxiety disorder are capable of showing and saying how they feel. However, sometimes they choose not to. And that is because the last time they did, they were dismissed. Always lend an ear to your loved one. The next time you sense that he or she is going through something and would like to talk about it, sincerely show your eagerness to listen. You don’t always have to give advice. Often, just listening is what you can do best.

Be gentle on them.

Part of having anxiety disorder is getting overwhelmed easily. Even things and situations that are too familiar with them can cause them to feel overwhelmed and anxious. So always take it easy on them. When trying to encourage your loved one to go somewhere or try out something, always keep in mind that what brings you enjoyment may be a source of panic for them. Let them feel comfortable by giving them an option to leave anytime they start feeling overwhelmed.

Your support doesn’t go unmissed.

People with anxiety problems realise that their condition is tough not just for them but for the people around them. They understand that you’ve done some things that are difficult for you in consideration of them. One of the hallmarks of anxiety disorder is overthinking. And part of their thoughts go out to the people who care about them so much. They may find it hard to show how much they appreciate your efforts, but be assured that they are grateful for having a supportive person like you in their life.

Don’t pressure them to change quickly.

Even for people who don’t have anxiety disorder, change can be tough. But for those who have this condition, making change is even more challenging. Do support them and encourage change particularly in the way they perceive things. But don’t force them to, or pressure them to do it ASAP. Change takes time. And sometimes, it necessitates professional intervention. Just be more patient and understanding. Know that they’re trying. They really are.

Realise that they aren’t always present.

Your loved one may appear like uninterested with what you are saying, or is not listening to your advice. But do understand that their inability to stick to the present moment is one of the hallmarks of anxiety disorder. They are often absorbed with their worries and negative thoughts that you may find them feeling lost. Perhaps, you can encourage your loved one to enrol in a mindfulness class like meditation or yoga. Such mind-body exercises are scientifically proven to alleviate anxiety.

Helping a loved one live a normal life despite their anxiety disorder, or overcome it, can be tough and challenging. But with these tips, it is possible.