Ways to Repair Your Relationship
Every couple faces different challenges. And no matter how much you love each other, research shows fighting is inevitable. But that’s okay. What’s important is both of you make an effort to fix your relationship.
Here are some strategies to get started.
Bring back the sizzle.
One of the factors that contribute to relationship dissatisfaction is boredom. It’s not just conflict that you need to pay attention to, but levels of engagement. Boredom is a real issue, especially among long-term relationships. Try something new. Pack your clothes and go to a place that you’ve never visited before, with your partner. You may think you know each other so well, but there are many more things you can discover.
Touch more.
Studies show that touching each other, especially during times of stress, is not only an effective way to show compassion and support for your partner. Touching more often is also a powerful way to increase your sense of connection to him or her.
Acknowledge your differences.
No two persons are born with the same personalities, strengths and weaknesses. Each of you has flaws and shortcomings which you should not ignore or blame each other about. Learn to acknowledge those differences.
Stop the blame game.
This is very destructive to a relationship. Let’s face it, sometimes bad things happen, that’s just the way life is. Looking at each challenge as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship bond will help you minimise the stress and avoid the temptation to blame your partner.
Respect each other’s feelings.
People have different ways of expressing their feelings. When it comes to stress, for instance, some would try to deal with it by simply staying at home and befriending silence, whilst others prefer to go out with friends. The way couples express their feelings does not mean that one person’s way is more valid than their mate’s, it’s just different.
Seek opportunities to encourage each other.
When the other is dealing with issues about self-doubt, encouragement can be a powerful tool. Mutual encouragement is a great way to strengthen your relationship. Instead of waiting for stressful situations to present themselves, seek every opportunity to be encouraging.
Listen, listen, and listen.
Sometimes, we talk too much and we listen less. Listening is a powerful tool that can save your relationship. When your partner speaks, make an effort to stay mentally present. Try not to be judgemental. Try to understand his or her point of view, and where your partner is coming from.
Empathise.
Allow your partner’s experience to deeply affect you. Staying emotionally engaged and expressing compassion can provide healing comfort and connection. Many times, that is all she needs.
Get help if you need it.
When things get confusing, don’t hesitate to seek help. A qualified relationship coach or counsellor can often see things much more clearly and provide valuable insight at just the right time. He or she can help you recognise the real causes of your relationship issues, and guide you through healing.
Avoid making negative assumptions.
Don’t make things worse by assuming the worst. When things are not going according to plan, avoid focusing on the negative possibilities. Instead, sit down with your mate and discuss possible solution. Working together in a positive way can help you and your partner solve whatever issues you are dealing with.
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