It’s all about her: 10 Sex tips for Men

Sharon Moore November 05, 2012

Sex is more than just a physical act. It is an intimate process that is shared by two, deeply in-love individuals. It is a gift that is shared by couples – an expression of love.

While there are similarities, there are also major differences in how men and women view sexual relationships. We don’t often tell each other how we feel and can often feel unsatisfied. Here are 10 great tips to help satisfy your partner:

1. When asking her, be creative!

Never ask her “Do you want to have sex?” because even if she does, she might get embarrassed and turn you off. For women, sex is not just all about making out. It is a romantic affair. Many times, women think that all men want is sex. Make your wife feel that what you want is her. Ask her if she wants to make love with you by caressing her hair, kissing her in the side of her lips, and whispering sweet words like “you are so beautiful”, “you’re very special to me”, and so on.

2. Keep the room warm.

You may want to switch off the air conditioner before making love to your wife. Heat causes the blood vessels to dilate which increases swelling of the penis and vagina. If you sweat, don’t worry. Sweating in men raises their testosterone levels, a fact that makes women more hooked to their partners during sex.

3. Invest in foreplay.

Just because it takes too long for her to reach her orgasm doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to have sex with you. From a dead start, it normally takes 40 minutes for women to reach their peak. You have to take her “willingness” to the next level and make her “want” it bad. The trick is to set her mood and the best way to do it is through the foreplay. Women love to be caressed, kissed, hugged, and touched. These things make them feel more loved, valued and appreciated. Reserve the big act for the finale.

4. Do it in the morning.

Many couples have inactive sexual relationships because they prefer to do it at night but when the dusk breaks, they no longer have the energy to do it. So instead of having sex at night, why not do it in the morning when you are more energetic and revitalised? Wait, there’s more – in the morning, you can take advantage in the surge of your testosterone!

5. Get to the G-spot.

It is not every time you can find the G-spot but when you do, you are sure to give your wife the best sex ever. It is located in the front section of the vaginal wall, between the cervix and the vaginal opening. G-spot stimulation is most likely to be achieved through the insertion of the penis from the back.

6. Introduce new techniques after she’s very aroused.

Don’t tell her you are interested in doing this and that while you are having dinner, watching TV, or driving your way home. If you are looking to hear a positive response from your wife, ask her when she’s halfway to her peak. That’s the time when she is most likely to take off the boundaries and be more ready for suggestions.

7. The more the merrier.

The more sex techniques you know, the more likely she will enjoy the activity. They say a good lover uses at least 20 touches. You should also be able to read her body language. It is not all the time that women are in the best mood. Some of the techniques may work one day and not on another.

8. Keep your behind in shape.

One of the most admired body parts of men by women are their buttocks. You’ll find many exercises designed to make your buttocks bigger and sexier. One of which includes squatting!

9. Appreciate her beauty.

Tell her how beautiful she is and how great she looks. And when you do, mean it! Women don’t like to be seen naked. As you take her clothes off, she becomes more vulnerable and sensitive. Tell your wife what you love about her body as she undresses. This also makes her more aroused.

10. Both of you should finish the race.

As mentioned, women may need more time to reach their climax. If you already reached yours, you should keep going even if you are already tired. It’s your responsibility to help her reach the finish line. What’s the best technique? Head south with your mouth!

Sources of this article:

Deborah Tolman, Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk About Sexuality (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 2002)