Growing Mentally Strong and Surviving the Workplace War

Lisa Franchi February 14, 2013

Who says the rude and the bullies are only at school? Well, that was a long time ago. Now, bullying, gossiping and backstabbing are all in the workplace too! In fact, the majority of workers say they are mistreated at least once a week!

If you’re one of these people, it’s time to take some action. Staying silent on the matter will not only affect your productivity at work, but can also ruin your personal relationships and affect your overall sense of wellbeing. So before you quit your job because of these rude workmates and bosses, here are sure-fire tips to help you win the workplace war without being rude yourself.

Confronting a Bully

You have just finished creating the report which you have been working on for the past days (and making your head ache in vain!), and there is your ‘friendly’ officemate infuriating you with his sarcasm again! Marie McIntyre, Ph.D., author of Secrets to Winning at Office Politics suggests you deal with the bullies by giving a short, firm yet closing response. Well, you really don’t want to make that person feel you are affected by whatever they are saying. The secret is to keep cool and unaffected. Respond to them like you don’t realise they are fretting on you.

Dealing with a Snobbish

For whatever reason you don’t know, your workmate is acting as if you have never existed! Your first step would be to ask them ‘what’s up’ and try to know the reason why that person is avoiding you. Give them two chances to speak up and tell you what’s wrong. If the ‘snobbish’ attitude persists, it’s not your problem anymore! Just pretend as if everything’s fine. After failing to get what they want, these people will eventually stop.

Working with the Dangerously Competitive

Competition at work is normal, as long as it’s healthy. So if you have a nosy officemate who always want to get an edge over you by hook or by crook, keep the distance long as much as possible! People like this are always finding an opportunity to let you down. So beware of them! Never say anything they can use against you. This doesn’t mean however that you just have to ignore them. You can be friendly without allowing them to take advantage of you.

Resisting a Backstabber

Backstabbing is a tradition in many industries, so don’t be surprised if someone is badmouthing behind your back. The best way to deal with a backstabber is to confront him or her without acting rudely. You really don’t want to stoop down on their level and become like them! Don’t demand for an apology and never start an interrogation. Just tell that person you know about his gossiping and show them you are not affected. Life goes on.

Beating the ‘Unstoppable’ Rude

If your boss is becoming too personal and is very persistent in making you feel worthless and all, never show them any sign that you are hurt or what. Indifference is the best way to deal with it. Experts suggest avoiding attending social functions, limiting staying in the office beyond working hours, and limiting your interaction with your boss especially on non-work-related matters. Bear one thing in mind – you are there to work and earn. These people can’t do anything to prevent you from reaching your career goals!

Dear Readers,

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