8 Things You Should Not Be Sorry About

Sharon Moore July 13, 2015

Too often, we find ourselves feeling sorry and blaming ourselves for things that are beyond our control. Believing that you are responsible for every single thing that happens in your life is not a good practice, and is never helpful. Not only do you stress yourself about things that you should care less about, but they will also keep you close to sadness. Indeed, there are some things we just shouldn’t apologise for.

The failures you had.

We all make mistakes. We are only humans, and therefore, we are prone to committing errors and failures. Instead of fretting about those failed attempts, why not see them as an opportunity to learn and master your craft and do better next time? Even the most successful people in the world had their own share of failure.

Your emotions.

You shouldn’t think you are insane or mentally ill just because you are experiencing negative emotions at the moment. We are all bound to go through a variety of emotions – good or bad. We all get angry and sad, or happy and joyful. Regardless of what your emotions are right now, the key to dealing with them is to acknowledge them. The sooner we learn to accept our emotions, the more emotionally healthy we’ll be.

Your needs.

We all have unique needs that need to be addressed. Every one of us is different, so our needs vary from each other too. Don’t blame yourself for needing something in your life – whether it’s about your career or personal relationship. You shouldn’t be sorry about what makes you feel fulfilled.

Putting your needs above anyone else.

Many of us feel guilty for taking more care about themselves. The relationship you have with your body and mind is the most important thing you can do to become a whole person who is capable of loving others more. When your emotional, mental and physical needs are not met, meeting the needs of others becomes easier.

The past hurts.

Past is past, so the say. There’s nothing you can do to change or edit the past. But you can do something today to make your future better and brighter.

Rejection of others.

If someone rejected you, it’s not because of you, it’s about them. It is never your fault that someone doesn’t like your hair, your colour, or the way you dress. When does being real became bad? Remember, you are only responsible for your actions and reactions, and not that of the other people.

Someone else’s circumstances.

It is not your fault that your loved one didn’t get what they want. You probably have plenty of problems already, you shouldn’t torture yourself by being someone else’s shock absorber or blaming yourself for other people’s misfortunes. It is not wrong to help a person in need. But you shouldn’t let yourself be carried away with their own personal circumstances.

Trusting someone you shouldn’t have.

People are flawed. A person may seem nice and perfect at first, giving you every reason to trust and believe them. But later on, they may change colours, leaving you feeling betrayed. It is never your fault that you trusted someone. Trust is a gift. If you will never trust and take risks, you are less likely to achieve your goals or find that something you have been searching for.