7 Steps to Get through Life’s Difficult Transitions

Sharon Moore November 04, 2014

We all go through series of changes throughout our lifetime. As they say – nothing is constant but change. But there are transitions that are just too difficult to bear, and cause us severe stress, anxiety and even unhappiness.

Nevertheless, no matter how difficult the transition may be, with proper mind-setting and an optimistic attitude, we can always get through it successfully.

Here are great ways to overcome life’s difficult transitions:

Acknowledge but don’t get stuck.

Whatever it is – a job loss, bereavement, or a chronic health diagnosis – it is necessary that we acknowledge the change. Or else, we will never go forward. But even though you acknowledge and embrace it, it doesn’t mean you have to identify yourself as it is. It is important that you keep this in mind – you are much more than that. If you focus all your attention to the job you lost, the illness you have or the fact that someone you love has gone forever, you miss many good things that are part of your life.

Never ever compare.

Don’t ask why others don’t go through the difficulties you are having right now, as this will be unfair to you and to them. You can’t just make a firm conclusion about the challenges other people have gone through. They may not be going through the same transition you’re in now, but you never know if they have gone through a more difficult one. Comparing yourself to others is only going to hurt yourself.

Avoid excessive worrying.

When you are going through a difficult transition, it is easy to get carried away with negative thoughts and ruminations. Don’t burden yourself of things that have haven’t happened yet. It’s like torturing yourself over and over again.

Practice mindfulness.

Meditation is a great mind-body practice that lets you connect with something bigger than you. It is a perfect tool to use if you’re struggling with anxiety and all the other unwanted emotions that you may feel as you go through life’s transitions. What’s more, meditation helps you rest and sleep better, and gives you peace of mind. Practising meditation or yoga several minutes a day greatly helps.

Laugh.

Laughter is the best medicine. Make it a habit to laugh at least once a day. Don’t wait for something or someone to make you laugh. Go and seek it! Watch a funny video or movie, or hang out with your jolly friends. Like meditation, a good laugh can certainly do wonders to your mental health especially during tough times.

Work out.

Even a 10-minute exercise can have a significant impact on your mood and well-being. Sign up for a gym membership, download some workout videos from YouTube, learn martial arts, and engage into a new sport – a bit of movement can change your life tremendously in both physical and mental levels.

Ask help. It’s definitely okay. Don’t hesitate to ask help from your family or friends, or from professional therapists. You will be surprised of how people are happy to lend you a hand and support you in many different ways.

Going through life’s difficult transitions can be a tormenting experience. But you can always get over them with success. These simple steps will help.