5 Simple Ways to Recharge & Power Up Your Relationship

Lisa Franchi May 08, 2014

Sustaining a relationship or a marriage is one of the most difficult challenges we can face in our lives. There are many factors that seem to impair our relationship, such as anxiety and stress, responsibilities and obligations, social pressure, failing expectations, overfamiliarity, and financial burden.

So amidst all these problems, what can we do to keep the happiness and spark in our relationship? What can we do to nurture our connection with our partner?

The good news is that we don’t really have to put so much effort. Sometimes, the key to sustaining the energy and happiness in a relationship is reinstating some of the behaviours that came naturally at the beginning of the relationship. Here they are:

Presence

Quality time is crucial to a relationship. You probably remember how you wanted to be always with your partner all of the time when you were still dating. Presence strengthens your tie and keeps you closer to each other. You presence makes your significant other feel that you love him/her. So no matter how busy you both are, make sure to spend quality time with each other – away you’re your mobile phone, computer and other distractions.

Curiosity

When we first met our partner, we all evoke a childlike curiosity about the other. We want to know their past, their hobbies, dislikes, beliefs, dreams and passions. We want to know everything. The problem with many of us is that we think of these things as static. So when we asked our partner once, we don’t ask them again. Although past can’t be changed, many other things about our significant other can change, such as their hobbies, interests, dreams and the like. Being curious doesn’t not only make our partner feel that we are still interested to hearing their stories and points of view, it is also another way to reconnect with them, communicate and understand them better.

Touch (more touch)

The problem with many long-term couples is that they touch less, and less often. Physical affection and intimacy is a special and unique way of expressing our love and endearment. It is something only you can give to your partner. It doesn’t always have to be sex. A hug, a kiss, and more touching all can recharge and power up our relationship.

Surprises

We all love surprises. During the dating stage, most couples are fond of giving special presents to each other and doing fun things together. Don’t let the fun and silliness ends. Try to occasionally break the patterns of daily life. Do something different. Engage in a new sport, activity or hobby together. Travel and explore different places. Have a picnic at the backyard. Excitement fuels our relationship and makes it more special.

Humour

They say ‘laughter is the best medicine’. And it applies in relationships too. Laugh out loud together. Watch a funny film or a comedy show. Read comic books. Dance together. Get silly and all! Laughter can take all the troubles and sadness away.