5 Compassionate Ways to Support Someone with Depression

Sharon Moore October 14, 2014

Depression is more than feeling sad. It is a serious, isolating condition that affects millions of people of all ages from all walks of life. It promotes emotional and physical pain, and could leave a person feeling helpless and defenceless.

If your loved one is struggling with depression, realise that there’s something great you can do to help him/her. You may find yourself feeling somehow ‘depressed’ too, because you are confronted with a mix of emotions, like frustration, guilt, helplessness, and anger. Yes, dealing with someone who has depression can be difficult too. Don’t worry. The following tips can be of great help to you.

Know everything you can about depression.

Depression is a medical condition. It is not just about feeling sad. It has varying causes, and comes with so many undesirable symptoms. It is important to understand that depression is not a choice. It is a real illness that has to be dealt with in the right way. Learn as many things as you can about depression. Ask a health professional. Read some books. Or search the web. When you are equipped with the knowledge, you will certainly know what to do.

Let them know they’re not alone with this.

People who have depression may feel like navigating alone in a strong, dark tunnel. It can be a great relief for them if you will let them know that they are not alone in this journey. Let them know you are an ally.

Try not to minimise their pain.

Saying words like “Just get through it because tomorrow is another day” and “You’re simply overreacting. You’re stronger than that” is a way to invalidate their feelings in this very difficult situation they’re into. While your intention is to make them feel better or strengthen their self-esteem, it makes them feel like they are weak or flawed, and ashamed and inadequate. Sometimes, offering advices is not necessary. Simple acts like asking them for a short walk can be more comforting and helpful. Let them realise that struggling with depression is not their fault.

Encourage treatment.

Some people with depression don’t even realise that they have it, so they don’t think about getting treatment. And often, those who suffer from depression feel too ashamed to admit they are. The problem is that it’s rare for depression sufferers to get better without treatment. Discuss the various treatment types that your loved one can try. Volunteering to schedule an appointment with a therapist or accompanying him or her to the clinic can help lighten the pressure and stress accompanied in depression.

Practise self-compassion.

Helping someone you love as they struggle through depression can be tremendously stressful as well. So make sure you are being gentle on yourself. It isn’t an act of selfishness. Make sure you are getting enough sleep, proper diet, and relaxation. When you are feeling positive and well, you become more capable of helping others.

Through these simple yet powerful ways, you can make things easier and better for a person struggling with depression.