5 Behaviours You Think Are Negative But are Actually Healthy

Sharon Moore December 02, 2014

Often, we choose to conceal how we feel and what we are thinking just to please other people and maintain a healthy relationship with them. But sometimes, no matter how bad we may feel about ourselves, we simply have to be true about our feelings and express our emotions. There are certain behaviours we think are bad but are actually healthy and good for us.

Anger

Anger is a natural emotion and every one of us, even the kindest person we know, goes through feelings of anger from time to time. While it can trigger us to do undesirable things, expressing anger in a healthy way can create powerful and positive changes in your life. The key is to study how you can express anger in a positive way. It is when we deny our anger or resort to unhealthy ways to deal with it that this emotion can backfire and hurt us in many different ways.

Sadness

Often accompanied by crying, sadness is another normal emotion that humans experience from time to time. You might find yourself feeling blue for no particular reason, and that’s fine. While sadness and tears often bring us discomfort, it is important to acknowledge them, as they can help us identify the areas in our life that we need to work on and improve.

Lack of Sense of Belongingness

Not fitting in can be painful and may lead self-criticism. But it can also mean that you are an innovator and that you have something to offer that is beyond the norm. Trying to be different, instead of just fitting in, is one way to explore your strengths and improve yourself. When you step out of your comfort zone, that’s where a lot of learnings begin.

Breaking the Rules

There are no perfect rules or policies. Sometimes, going against them can lead to better outcomes. Many triumphant endeavours in arts, science and technology, and other fields are a result of people going the unconventional path and trying to be different.

Being Alone

Spending time alone is never a lonely act. In fact, psychologists encourage us to spend time alone as it can help us discover ourselves better and reconnect to inner selves. You might feel uncomfortable going to the mall, watching a movie, or dining out all by yourself. But sometimes, it is really fun and healthy. You must strengthen your relationship with yourself like you do with your social relationships.

There are negative emotions and behaviours we dwell to from time to time that make us feel guilty or different. But these emotions are normal. It’s how we look at them and deal with them that makes a big difference.