15 Signs that Your Relationship is Thriving

Rebecca Lewis July 24, 2013

There’s no magic formula for relationship success. To stay happy and satisfied with your romantic life, every little thing counts. If you’re working to improve your marriage, these 15 habits of happy couples might help you.

You go to bed at the same time.

Happy couples couldn’t go to bed without their significant others beside them. They go to bed at the same time, even if that means one has to wake up later in the night to finish some works whilst the other one sleeps. Couples who are happy about their relationship would always want to see each other’s faces before the day ends and as another one begins.

You hold hands whilst you walk.

Or, you walk side by side. Happy couples don’t feel comfortable walking in the street with their partner yet not holding their hands. The scenes around them are not so interesting without their significant others’ presence.

You frequently hug each other.

Do you hug your partner as soon as he or she arrives home from work? Couples who have thriving relationships are not ashamed to show their sweetness, care and love to their significant others. Even if you’ve been together the whole day, there are moments when you feel like hugging each other and you just let yourself be carried away with that emotion.

You both say ‘good night’ each night.

Even if you just argued, saying ‘good night’ before going to sleep is another way of saying “Okay we fought, but that doesn’t change the fact that we love each other”. You both understand that your relationship is more important than any kind of misunderstanding.

You both say ‘good morning’ and ‘I love you’.

Whilst it’s true that showing your love rather than saying it is more important, hearing the words “I love you” from your special someone can definitely tickle your heart and make you feel more loved and cared for.

When the going gets tough, you don’t call mum or dad.

You don’t call your mum or dad immediately whenever you have problems in your relationship. Rather, you both talk about it first, over a cup of coffee. Whether it’s about having a second child, relocating to a new house, leaving home for a new job opportunity, happy couples work hard to settle any issue between the both of them first before seeking for ‘backup’.

You both do the household chores.

It’s true that women often do more in the housekeeping than men. But if it’s always like this, there will always come a point when one will burst into anger because of the overwhelming tasks at home. A thriving relationship is one in which couples give all they can, striving for 50-50 distribution of tasks.

You laugh together.

Happy couples always have time for fun and silliness. Your relationship is thriving when both of you laugh together, exchange jokes, and don’t feel shy looking silly just for the sake of fun.

You’re proud of each other.

You don’t care what other people may think about you being with that person. Happy couples hold hands in public not to show off but to indicate that they belong with each other.

You do sex regularly.

Healthy sex reinforces and deepens the closeness and emotional bond among couples. You don’t have to do the deed every day, or every other day. But it’s always better to have a schedule for love-making.

You focus on each other’s positive side.

Your partner may have done mistakes in the past but you don’t allow those mistakes to outweigh the good things he or she has done for you. Once you have forgiven your significant other, you also forget about his or her shortcomings.

You have common interests.

You may have hobbies or interests that are different from each other but that shouldn’t stop both of you from enjoying doing various activities together. Find something that both of you find enjoyable. It may be a sport activity, swimming, exercising, etc. But at the same time, make sure to spend time doing activities that personally interest you so you don’t feel like you are too ‘dependent’ on each other.

You check each other for ‘updates’.

Even if you’re working in different locations, you don’t fail to check on each other to know one is doing – either through email, call or text message. Of course there are times when either one or both of you are busy that you may not have time to ‘weather check’ but it shouldn’t be like this always.

You understand each other’s needs.

Unmet expectations and day-to-day disappointments could cause trouble to any relationship. Happy couples know and understand the needs of each other and put extra effort to give it. Of course, this won’t happen if you don’t talk about it. To diffuse frustration about unmet needs, you need to share your expectations with each other.

They are grateful for everything ordinary.

As years go by, it’s easy for couples to take everything each other does for granted. But healthy and satisfying relationships are filled with joy and appreciation for everything, even to the most ordinary. Happy couples don’t feel tired thanking and appreciating each other for all they do – from preparing coffee in the morning to cooking a lovely dish, folding the towels right, and kissing each other goodnight.